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Chis August- Restore
Today my cousin was married.
Tomorrow I will celebrate my 17th wedding Anniversary.
I can say candlelight, roses, whispered words of love, romantic getaways, and all other gestures of love have a definite limit to their power.
I love them the way I love dark chocolate, in limited doses.
What I have found that I want unlimited doses of is a little more Christ in my spouse and I.
When I know I have really messed up, to see undeserved forgiveness in his eyes.
When I want to throw in the towel to hear him say "I will never give up on our love or our life together"
To repent together of stupid choices and feel that God is giving us a fresh start.
To encourage him to take a risk for his faith and see how much joy he gets from it.
To teach our children together about God.
To know he hears me when I am struggling because God gave him the ability to.
Sure I can whip out the fairy tale story- a happy marriage, children, financial security but the only the magical about it is how God can take two totally, completely average people and dwell in them.
It really breaks my heart that Iron man and Pepper never discussed marriage. Crazy, I know but to me marriage is the only way to really say "I love you".
You don't need to test out "I love you", it's a choice. You don't say "let me try to choose and see if I can". You just choose.
If you or someone you are with feels the need to try things out before marriage, what's really being said is "let me see if you can meet my needs".
Trust me, in the long haul this kind of thinking is the hole that sinks the ship. A human being cannot meet your needs, and neither should you ask them too.
Only God can do that.
Can a human being be a life long companion?
I'm banking on it.
Can a human being show you unconditional love?
We've been working at it for 17 years.
Will you suffer for your choice, yes, yes you will.
But if never suffering is your goal, go find a cryogenic freezer and get frozen in it.
Life involves some pain but I want mine to be toward a goal that is worth having.
As the old knight Templar in Indian Jones and the Holy Grail said "Choose wisely".
For me choosing to say "I love you" to someone who gave their heart fully to Christ made all the difference in the world.
The tree where almost 21 years ago, my sweetie gave me my first kiss. Thank you honey, for living up to your promises.
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